Hardwired for Love

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I am ready to release my newest book Hardwired for Love. I would like to share some excerpts from my book. Here we go!!

I wrote the book in parts to give the reader a look into the dynamics of Love. Also the dynamics which help guard our hearts and discern violence. The main premise of the book is to understand how violence chips away at Love.

Here is an excerpt from the chapter titled Whispering and Suggestion.

Proverbs   4:23 

Keep your heart with all vigilance,

for from it flow the springs of life.

The Lord spoke to me about your heart or your mind many years ago. I did an exhaustive study on your mind and your heart. God wants to make sure we have every availability and knowledge to overcome and defeat the enemy of our soul. I have found it extremely important and one of the best weapons is to know how things work. Whether it is spiritual or in the physical realm it all goes together.

The power of suggestion is seen as a word or thought is introduced to your mind to accomplish that word or thought. You may be on a diet and someone offers you ice cream. It is clearly not on your diet. You have a choice to accept or reject the ice cream. The original thought is “I am on a diet and that is not on the list of the things I need to eat.” Your will is the seat of choice. Do you exercise your will for or against the ice cream? Your emotions may range from, “ I am excited and anticipating tasting the ice cream” to “Ugh, I would feel horrible to stop my progress of being healthy and lose weight.”

You could go through all of the logical thoughts or so it seems, of “it’s only one scoop of ice cream.” Or, “I’ll just exercise more.” It becomes the justification of your decision and actions. Your actions start with a thought. You process the thought until it becomes an action.

As you can see above, we need to be on guard about where our information comes from, who it comes from and what we allow in our heart. My next selection will be from the chapter Nice is a dirty word.

Nice is a dirty word , will soon make sense to you as we define it. Here it is as follows.

     We get the spelling of the word “nice” from the French word of the same spelling, meaning foolish. From the Old French it came from a Latin word nescius meaning ignorant and nescire meaning not known. The Middle English means stupid. Starting in the 14th century.

     This word has been changed over the centuries. This word breaks down as follows: In the 14th century, it meant foolish, silly, ostentation, wantonness, extravagance, cowardice and sloth. More meanings were fussy, finicky, reticent, trivial and dissolute. By the Middle Ages it became more neutral with the meaning coy and reserved. By the 18th century it was given more positive meanings however, I did not find those meanings for that time frame anywhere.

     Today this word is generally considered positive. Defined by today’s changed definition as follows: pleasant, pleasure, amiable and delightful. The word is clearly not related to one’s character. These words seem to appeal to the effect that have on the receiver. 

As you can see, guarding our hearts is essential to fend off intruders into our hearts. Boundaries are essential and knowledge is king. Hint, Kindness is the fruit of the Spirit that exhibits love. Nice is nothing more than a smoke screen in the love department. Being “nice” is nothing more than gaining illegal entrance into someone’s heart. Kindness actually is quantifiable and means something concrete.

We are literally Hardwired for love and respond best to receiving love and giving love. The neuroscience is proven in the love department. Our brains are not wired for violence. It actually binds us together or creates a bond.

I hope you have enjoyed the brief peak at my book! I will announce when it is available for purchase on Amazon. Have a great July!


To live in the present


This is a great post by Creative Boost. It’s important to get in the present. Life can be so overwhelming and staying in the present can change our perspective.

Remember to love. Remember to hope. Remember to dream.


Podcast: Taking a Break, S1E30

Hardwired for Life: Season 1, Episode 30
The times and seasons are changing, and we are changing too. We are taking a break this summer while Sharon gets married and moves into a new house. We are super excited to see what God is going to with us as start this new adventure. Feel free to email us at Hardwired365@gmail.com with any questions, comments or concerns. Be blessed and have a great summer.

Podcast: The Heart & Shalom, S1E29

Hardwired for Life: Season 1, Episode 29



The heart is said in Scripture to be like a stone, deceitful and destructive, but it’s also sincere, delightful and full of desires from God. Actions we take from our hearts are driven by our motivations. We can focus on the negative or we can rise above and seek Shalom in every area of our lives. Our feet walk the paths laid out by our hearts, so it’s important to know which path we’ll take.


† By God’s grace.

Podcast: Poverty Mentality, S1E28, Part 2

Hardwired for Life: Season 1, Episode 28 Part 2



The poverty mentality can mean many things. We explore what those are and get a bit fired-up over it all. We talk about physical, spiritual, and emotional forms of poverty and how they affect our lives. We also discuss various teaching about poverty in the church community.



† By God’s grace.

Podcast: Poverty Mentality, S1E28, Part 1

Hardwired for Life: Season 1, Episode 28 Part 1



The poverty mentality can mean many things. We explore what those are and get a bit fired-up over it all. We talk about physical, spiritual, and emotional forms of poverty and how they affect our lives. We also discuss various teaching about poverty in the church community.



† By God’s grace.

Looking for a Magic Bullet — Aha! Jana

I know that a lot of people are looking for healing. Many people hope and pray and expect to be healed all at once, declaring it to be so. I confess I’m looking for that magic bullet too, and I don’t believe in engaging in magic. I’ve been waiting for a miracle and in the […]

via Looking for a Magic Bullet — Aha! Jana

Podcast: Endurance & Love, S1E27 Part 2

Hardwired for Life, Season 1, Episode 27 Part 2



We are running a great race and we must add love, care, hope and faith to our path. We often think of endurance as something athletic or even academic, rather than something filling us with hope to keep on going until the end. We endure God’s, righteous love.

EnduranceVerses ♥


† By God’s grace.

The Tangible Love Of God

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We love good gifts from our Heavenly father that we can see, touch, feel and smell. We love our favorite gift card, perfume, piece of clothing, something to add to our hobbies, add to our homes or a home, anything that adds life to ourselves and our family and friends.

For men, I know a new motorcycle, fishing pole, boat, tool, car, truck and other things that add to your life is always welcomed. You value your relationships as well. Family is important and friends. A new BBQ is always welcome here in Southern California.

I wasn’t intending to separate the genders except I realized the picture of beauty I chose did not reflect men. We ALL love good gifts from our Father in Heaven. Today I am hoping to dispel thoughts of “God is against us having physical stuff”. I know he is more than happy to grant our requests.

Tangible means perceptible by touch.The synonyms are  palpable, tactile, material, physical, real, substantial, corporeal, solid, concrete; visible, noticeable.It also means clear and real. More synonyms are as follows:

real, actual, solid, concrete, substantial, hard, well defined, definite, well documented, clear, clear-cut, distinct, manifest, evident, obvious, striking, indisputable, undoubted, unmistakable, positive, perceptible, verifiable, appreciable, measurable, discernible, intelligible.

We still live in a very real physical world. We are created in HIS image and have need of not only physical needs to live; they also bring us life. Many times God will show me things in the supernatural or in my own spirit before I can put words to them If I am in the questioning mode of “how does that work?” He will show me and the the words come to bring understanding.

My latest question has been “How does He see riches and wealth?” It is very much in His nature to provide those for us. He is a giver and we are the receivers. He does instruct us that they have responsibility for them. As I was pondering, the understanding became more clear how it affects our person to be given or have worked for physical objects. It does add life to our soul. The difference we sometimes do not catch is that it is temporary.

Mat 7:11 ESV – 11 If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!

He loves to give us not only “stuff” he loves to give us anything else we hold as a desire in our heart. He loves to surprise us and give us the desires of our heart. If we want to enjoy the true joy of God’s heart to give us these gifts we must let him do it. We tie his hands when we try and do it ourselves.

He is not opposed either if we work for those desires. Ask Him today. Sometimes he would like to surprise you!! Often when we pray He will ask us what we want and how we want it. He knows our very nature and desires.

Psa 20:4 ESV – 4 May he grant you your heart’s desire and fulfill all your plans!

Psa 21:2 ESV – 2 You have given him his heart’s desire and have not withheld the request of his lips. Selah

He has created people with creative gifts of all kinds to bring forth the physical realm’s gifts. Since we are made in His image we have the ability to create. There is an architect for houses, people who design rings, appliance designers, car designers, graphic designers, everything that physically comes into our life to make it better. The list is endless. I can’t imagine typing on a typewriter because my typing skills are less than perfect. Computers make my life so much easier.

I personally have experienced His goodness in many ways. I have desires that he will still fulfill. I know that I know. The tangible is very needed often to help water our soul and brings us much needed encouragement. Although He loves to just give it to us because He wants us to have the desires of our hearts fulfilled.

The etymology of tangible is late 16th century French meaning to touch. God wants us to be able to be touched by Him. He wants us to know we are loved.

Psa 136:21-22, 25 ESV – 21 and gave their land as a heritage, for his steadfast love endures forever; 22 a heritage to Israel his servant, for his steadfast love endures forever. … 25 he who gives food to all flesh, for his steadfast love endures forever.
Pro 8:21 ESV – 21 granting an inheritance to those who love me, and filling their treasuries.

Above are a few more scriptures that speak about God giving us good things. There are many stories in the word of God that are for now. God’s word is always relevant for us today. I always exchange the word Love for care. God cares to give us the desires of our heart. He is madly in Love with you!!

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