Building Relationship

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Encountering God

Let’s be honest, having a relationship with God can be difficult. Well, having any relationship is hard when you didn’t grow-up around positive relationships. It’s the “how to” that gets me.

I grew-up with some trauma, not to mention things like an abusive father figure, no idea who my biological father was, a traumatizing stepdad, and other men coming in-and-out of the home. I can’t blame my mother—she obviously didn’t know how to do relationships either.

Mom passed away in 2001, so I can’t heal and grow with her here. All this has truly hindered my ability to have relationship with Father God.

The hardest thing is that I have lacked encounter with God lately. Without encounter He’s not here with me, well He is, but it feels like He’s not.

I go through these phases of building and having a wonderful relationship with Him and then I stall out, so-to-speak. I want to get to the next phase. I want my motivations for relationship with Him to be honorable. And I don’t want to feel abandoned.

But how do I do it when He’s not visible in the room with me, or I’m not in the middle of an encounter?

Now, it’s an obvious answer is to say have more faith. That’s Biblical. And it wouldn’t hurt. It’s obvious to say I need healing, okay. How? I’m a mature Christian who has worked through these relationship issues for decades, including abandonment, victimhood, codependency, and more. So, what am I missing?

Let me put this another way: I think my perception and expectations of relationship and encounters need to change. Encounters have this way of helping us to “feel” Him, to experience His presence. But relationship must be more than encounters.

I think I expect that encounters are the relationship. But they’re not. They are merely a byproduct of the relationship.

I have family I don’t see every day. I know we still love each other and when I do see them, I’m more grateful for the time. So, why don’t I feel that way about Father God? I love Him, I obey His commands and I know He abides in me. So, what then?

Jesus and Holy Spirit are always accessible to me. Why not my Father in heaven? I’m pretty sure He’s not too busy for me.

King David felt this way. In Psalm 30 we read that David was horrified when God hid His face from him. Yet, David kept praising His Name in desperate gratitude.

I think the obvious answer is the right one after all. So, I’ll read and hear the Word of the Lord to increase my faith, learn more about the character of God and my identity as His child.

Whew! Amen.

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Podcast Replay: Abandonment & Hope

Hardwired Replay: Season 1, Episode 33
The conversation we had for this Podcast Replay was one of our first episodes. It’s always fun to see how far you have come, knowing you’ll also grow in the future. Be blessed, Spread the Word and remember to Be You, Share You.

Podcast: The Heart & Shalom, S1E29

Hardwired for Life: Season 1, Episode 29

 

 

The heart is said in Scripture to be like a stone, deceitful and destructive, but it’s also sincere, delightful and full of desires from God. Actions we take from our hearts are driven by our motivations. We can focus on the negative or we can rise above and seek Shalom in every area of our lives. Our feet walk the paths laid out by our hearts, so it’s important to know which path we’ll take.

 

† By God’s grace.

Podcast: Poverty Mentality, S1E28, Part 2

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Hardwired for Life: Season 1, Episode 28 Part 2

 

 

The poverty mentality can mean many things. We explore what those are and get a bit fired-up over it all. We talk about physical, spiritual, and emotional forms of poverty and how they affect our lives. We also discuss various teaching about poverty in the church community.

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† By God’s grace.

Podcast: Poverty Mentality, S1E28, Part 1

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Hardwired for Life: Season 1, Episode 28 Part 1

 

 

The poverty mentality can mean many things. We explore what those are and get a bit fired-up over it all. We talk about physical, spiritual, and emotional forms of poverty and how they affect our lives. We also discuss various teaching about poverty in the church community.

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† By God’s grace.

Podcast: Endurance & Love, S1E27 Part 2

Hardwired for Life, Season 1, Episode 27 Part 2

 

 

We are running a great race and we must add love, care, hope and faith to our path. We often think of endurance as something athletic or even academic, rather than something filling us with hope to keep on going until the end. We endure God’s, righteous love.

EnduranceVerses ♥

 

† By God’s grace.

Podcast: Endurance & Love, S1E27 Part 1

Hardwired for Life, Season 1, Episode 27 Part 1

 

 

 

We are running a great race and we must add love, care, hope and faith to our path. We often think of endurance as something athletic or even academic, rather than something filling us with hope to keep on going until the end. We endure God’s, righteous love.

EnduranceVerses ♥

 

† By God’s grace.

Podcast: Intimacy & Prayer, S1E25

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Hardwired for Life: Season 1, Episode 25

 

 

We can always go deeper with our relationship with Father God, Jesus and Holy Spirit. It’s up to us to create more intimacy with Him—He’s always ready for us to open our hearts to Him. One way is to change your prayer life to more conversational and relational dialog throughout the day.

 

† By God’s grace.

Podcast: Breakthrough & Glory, S1E26

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Hardwired for Life: Season 1, Episode 26

 

 

The glory of God fell upon us as we recorded this Podcast on breakthrough. We learned about the level of trust we must have in God to breakthrough our circumstances with the truth. The truth can hurt but we can overcome the pain and learn and grow closer to Christ and to others.

 

Breakthrough Verses

Hardwired for Life Podcast S1E26

 

† By God’s grace.

Purpose: We Can Change

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Our struggles eventually shape us into the creative people we are and will be — feelings and all. I assure you, there are opportunities to grow and thrive in our current fallen human condition. If I can do it, so can you. No matter the experience, whether perceived as good or bad, we can use it to create positive change in our lives and in ourselves. What do they say? It’s something like, “It’s not the fall, it is how you get back up that matters.”

Change is easier said than done, especially when for example: others add their two-cent advice before I ask them to, and/or I feel an unrighteous obligation to follow someone else’s lead. I can take these things and flip them to be positive. I can listen to advice before making my decision, and I can always say no when I feel I could be led in the wrong direction. I can use either side of the coin. It’s up to me to decide which way to go, or what my perception will be — positively for the situation or negatively. I’ve got be honest with myself regarding my motives and the care that I need at the time. 

Fear of Man: “If you can’t beat ‘um, join ‘um.” It’s a compromise to repent for.

Excerpt from Hardwired for Purpose by Jana Rawling (Coming out soon!)

† By God’s grace.